- You trust someone not play you, even when you kinda suspect they are?
- You give that person the benefit of the doubt several times, even when you have that niggling feeling that they're bull-shitting you?
- You have what seems like a soul-baring discussion with that person and walk away feeling like you've made some progress?
- You think you see them somewhere they're not supposed to be when they've told you their flight home was 12 hours previous?
- You are so bugged by thinking you saw them that you call the hotel they've supposedly checked out of, only to find that they're still registered; confirming that, yes, you are, and have been, being played for a total fool?
Yeah... me too.
What really makes me feel stupid is that I'm more bothered by the prospect of never hearing from him again after I sent that short, sweet mind-fuck of an email - because I kind of think I won't - when what I should be mad about being played for a fool by him for so long.
I'm fine. I'm not crushed (well, not much), and by tomorrow I'll just be 100% pissed off. Feel free to leave suggestions for proper revenge in the comments...
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Hmmmm... All I have is completely illegal and I can't mention it here...
My suggestion is to maintain dignity and silence. He won't be long before he's wondering why you're so quiet. It works well for me.
If it's any consolation, I can't always see through bull-shitting either. It usually slaps me in the face days afterwards!
Not knowing much details of what happened, I get the sense that maybe you don't really want to hear from him... you might not believe any words that comes out of his mouth anyway. Trust is so easily shattered.
The end of this post sounds like mine when I found out Sailor has been playing me. I thought of registering his email address to a lot of porn and spam sites. Never did though, because he isn't worth the time I'd waste.
Hope you are well.
Ugh! Revenge can take so many forms, but I agree with the silence and banishment. He doesn't deserve your time. Then again, as with Spring Flower, I don't really know the details well enough to endorse any path you choose...
Just one word, "Strategic Nuclear Weapons"
I've always favored a high place and a sniper rifle. :)
Seriously, sorry to hear it. No one deserves that, particularly not a gorgeous and sexy lady like you.
-- PB
There's no true satisfaction in revenge, only in moving on as quickly as you can. Being forgotten will be far more painful for him.
You are all SO wonderful.
My rage has subsided somewhat. My email to him last night was very carefully worded... cool enough to let on that it was no big deal, but also let him know that he'd been caught.
He did, in fact, respond (back-pedaling furiously); and I'm contemplating my response. He may get to stick around for my amusement, but the terms will now be all mine.
Don't play a playa, baby.
Whatever happens, you remember that YOU are in charge of how you react to this clown. He's laid all kinds of mines on the road, and you've discovered for yourself how to negotiate. Don't keep him around only because you enjoy the sex...That is also HIS desire as well, so deny it to him, plain and simple. You'll take the power back; you'll see.
At first, when reading your follow-up, I was like "Oooohhhhhhhh, you'll make him your little toy and play around with him!!"
But then, I also agree with Ronjazz. Is it really worth it? Is he worth it? I say you have the upper hand for sure. Looking forward for an update down the road!
I'm sorry to hear about that, you deserve better :-(
I like Ronjazz and Spring Flowers responses... I'd be thinking carefully if he is really worth your time. I'm not a big one on revenge..so I can't offer any suggestions! :)
"Stick around for amusement..."
It's funny how you think like me. I understand what Ron and Spring Flower are getting at, but if you're thinking the way I'm thinking, keeping him around is not for sex, but merely to toy with in his effort to get you back into bed. This is where my 'amusement' usually lies (for those who have tried to play me). Don't play the playa only works if you keep the upper hand, which means keep him baited, thinking you'll bite, but never do, and watch him try sooo hard to regain the upperhand. Keep that p___y on lock and keep him wanting that prize that he fucked up with. THAT is pain.
If sex is too much the temptation, then give up the game - you're emotions are more important.
Oh Sweetie, I had something similar happen to me. I'm so sorry.
Ugh. Not fun. I'm really sorry. :-(
I'm so sorry :(
I'm with Leah on this one. As awesome as revenge sounds...I'd rather just take the higher road and be rid of him.
*humpf*
I'm new to your blog. Although, the thought of keeping in control and using him as a toy is appealing, revenge is never as sweet as they say.
Good luck!
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